We have the right to change our minds, take a pause, or leave an uncomfortable situation. It’s pointless to blame ourselves for any of those things, just as it’s pointless to feel awful about feeling bad. It sometimes feels as if society expects you to be happy all the time, and that expressing grief is a sign of weakness. This is far from the case; if you held all your sadness or anger inside, you would burst. Everybody has good and terrible days. Nobody can be satisfied all the time; it’s impossible. You can feel on top of the world one day and down the next. While I am still working on accepting this, I am aware that it is a fact of life that occurs whether or not others choose to recognize it. Humans are not created to be happy all the time, so taking as much time as you need and acknowledging all of your feelings is always the best option. Our minds are the most powerful tool we can have. It’s always a matter of how we see ourselves.
Pain can make our vision blurry, making it difficult to perceive our strength and bravery. To reveal the cautious road in front of us, we sometimes need to share and enlighten the burden and clarify our views. The journey may appear long and exhausting, but all those days of fighting battles with yourself have honed your ability to overcome obstacles.
It’s fine to seek assistance. It’s fine to discuss it with someone. It’s fine to make notes on everything. It’s perfectly acceptable to forget oneself for a few moments. It’s quite normal to want to take on the world by oneself. But it’s never okay to stand there and watch oneself sink into an abyss.
Remember that you are not alone and that you are not bothering others: everyone has troubles in life. If you share how you’re feeling, it doesn’t mean you’re adding to someone else’s difficulties. You are not an inconvenience. When I communicate those thoughts and feelings, I feel a weight lifted from my shoulders and a sensation of relaxation wash over me.
The ups and downs of life are what form us into the persons we are today. Remember that others do care about you, that you are here for a reason, and that the world would not be the same without you whether you are having a good or bad day.
If you’re not okay, that’s okay. It happens sometimes. That’s normal. But you must tell yourself that things will be better.
May 31, 2022